What to look for in a relationships counsellor

Your relationship doesn’t have to be on the brink of devastation to be looking for a relationships counsellor. Not many people realise that seeking therapy as a couple can help to improve your relationship before problems start to occur. But, when looking for a therapist, wher5e do you even start? How do you know who will be the best therapist for you and your partner? There are a few things you can do to ensure that your first and following sessions are productive and helpful.


Find Someone Who Specialises In Couples Therapy

Many psychologists and therapists have specialty areas when counselling others. Some are more experienced in adolescent therapy, others have depression and anxiety. Some have a particular interest in their field and will therefore focus on that area of expertise.

When you first look for a therapist, find one who specialises in couples therapy. Many will have a website and will state what they like to focus on in their sessions. By choosing a therapist who focuses on couples therapy, you know you’ll be off to the best start with your sessions.


Delve A Little Deeper

Once you find a therapist who specialises in couples therapy, that may be a good time to dig a little deeper into their expertise. You will likely find a lot of information on their websites such as how long they have been a therapist and any qualifications they may have. They may also disclose what a session looks like with them. For example, is there a lot of homework to complete? How many sessions do they want to work with y9ou for? Do they have a specific type of therapy that they utilise?

Another aspect to keep in mind is if you have specific concerns within your relationship that you want to discuss. Do you want to discuss nonmonogamy or BDSM themes? Is this something this therapist has experience in or can work with? No matter what your concerns are, if you can’t find the information on their website, you can contact them directly and ask if these are issues they can help you with.




Stick With It

Therapy of any kind can bring up some uncomfortable moments and conversations. Add in your partner and thi9ngs can feel a little rough when in therapy. This is why many couples seem to give up on it before it’s even begun. One of the biggest tips we can give to you is that it is best to stick with the therapy for as long as your relationship needs. While it may feel hard at first, addressing the root problems over time is going to benefit you and your partner. While a session here and there might help with surface issues, long-term therapy can help you in the long run.


Be Understood

At the end of the day, these sessions are for you, your partner and your relationship; not your therapists. If ever you feel very uncomfortable or that you’re not being heard, it's always a good idea to be more assertive and make your feelings be heard. There are times when a therap[ist might not get it right 100% of the time on their first attempt. And that’s ok! Relationships are complex. This is why it is more important than ever to make sure you are heard and voice any concerns you may have with your therapist. Make sure how you feel and your thoughts surrounding the therapy and your relationship aren't overlooked. If you feel that your therapist isn't hearing you or your partner out after talking to them about your concerns, you can then look to find another more suitable therapist.


Finding a therapist can sometimes feel like you’re on a journey to finding another partner in life. But after your search and when you find someone who you can trust and confide in together with your partner, you’ll see the benefits long-term for a happy and fulfilling relationship.


If you’re looking for a relationship therapist in the Mornington Peninsula, Aly’s Place provides the perfect space to be open and honest together with your partner. Have a chat with us today about what you’re looking for and how we may be able to help.


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